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March 3, 2005

Fatherless Children Have a Hard Time When Their Father Is Gone

Greg Wallace has continued his series on fatherhood (the first part of which I commented on here). The second part gives the thesis:

It's been my personal experience as the male child of an alcoholic father and as one who disciples sexual strugglers that a father's absence seems to have the most damaging impact upon male children. Over the years, everything I've read indicates that if Dad’s missing in the child's life before age five, tendencies towards dependence and passivity are likely to develop. On the other hand, if Dad's missing in action between the ages of six and 12, hyper-masculine behavior (i.e., a false masculine mask to hide a sense of deficiency) may result. Let me rush to say there are no hard and fast rules here. These are generalities that depend on how the child perceives and processes information related to the father's absence.

In that post, Greg writes of his own, painful experiences as a boy. In the subsequent one, he turns to the Bible, analyzing the household of Isaac and its effects on Esau and Jacob. Greg proves his own point that "being sexually broken has had its odd benefits [in that some] of these familiar Bible stories are seen in a whole new light," and his assessment certainly makes for interesting reading.

Posted by Justin Katz at March 3, 2005 5:42 AM
Marriage & Family