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February 18, 2004

Anti-Assimilationist Marriage

Sorry to belabor this San Francisco matter, but I'm fascinated by it. You see, all this time, I've been under the impression that I'm arguing with advocates for gay marriage in good faith — that homosexuals want in. They don't want to be locked out of the American family anymore. That is, in fact, their best argument.

But this San Francisco "civil disobedience" is bringing some interesting characters into the story. As I pointed out in the previous post, we've got the 1970s man-hating lesbians in the mix. Apparently, they were called in by Kate Kendell (the weepy woman all the way on the left of this photo). Investigating Ms. Kendell, I came across this from 2001 (emphasis added):

What I think is going to happen as we grow in numbers is the importance of legal protections will become an absolute demand. ... It will be a demand of our community that our relationships and our children are entitled to equal opportunities and protection, and we will be less focused on an assimilation model. Because, for example, we have recent research - which those of us who have been parents of young adults have known all along - that children raised by gay and lesbian parents are somewhat more likely to have a greater fluidity in their sexual expression and may in fact be more likely to identity as lesbian or gay. And given this research, what we as parents and advocates have to do is unshackle our selves from internal homophobia and celebrate the fact that our kids are being raised in households where their sexual orientation is not rigidly dictated by societal messages about heterosexuality.

Frankly, I don't think very many people who support gay marriage, for one reason or another, understand the intentions of its other advocates. For some mainstream gay activists, like Ms. Kendell, it isn't a matter of formulating a policy to deal with homosexuals in our midst, as Andrew Sullivan suggests. For her, it is about an expanding, independent class of people rejecting "rigidly dictated" social norms.

Posted by Justin Katz at February 18, 2004 12:14 AM
Marriage & Family

I have been involved in this issue for years.
Well before it (has now) come to a head.
Your blog has had some of the best analysis (of this issue) I have seen on the web.
Please try an UP your readership..(by any means neccessary)
You could make a big difference.
Seriously...excellent analysis!


Posted by: Fitz at February 18, 2004 1:12 PM

Why, thank you, Fitz.

I try to up my readership in every way that I can (of course). If you're inclined to assist in the endeavor, I'd be very grateful.

Posted by: Justin Katz at February 18, 2004 6:28 PM