(Click on the logo to return to the main blog.)
Boys Marry Women Like Their Mothers
Over on the Marriage Debate blog (the direct links of which are not working properly), Eve Tushnet just goes ahead and makes a point that I have been holding in reserve, having not found an arguer on the other side who was willing to let me reach it in my logical procession:
For obvious reasons, I know more about fatherless households, so I'll stick with those: Sons say they never learned what it meant to be a man. (And they often try to find other, destructive roads to masculinity--like gang membership.) Daughters say they never learned what to look for in a man. Sons have a hard time learning how men fit into a family, why and how men are needed in the family. Daughters have a hard time learning how much they can ask of men--they often set their standards way too low and get taken advantage of. ...I think it would be bizarre if for some reason similarly powerful emotional effects were not felt in intentionally motherless households, although, like I said, I know a lot less about that because it's less common.
Men and women are not interchangeable as parents. But, again, you'll rarely maneuver a proponent of gay marriage into the position of having to answer this as a "yes" or "no" question.
Posted by Justin Katz @ 01:33